We want what is positive, but sometimes we attract negative people so that we can learn certain lessons. Do you need to shift your focus or do you need to make different choices?
The following points are good to keep in mind:
1. You are not responsible for another person’s happiness or mood. This means that if someone is “down” or even if they are “up” – it’s not because of you. Let them manage their own mood and their own “stuff.” If they are happy, great. If not, remember it’s not yours to process. It’s theirs.
2. You need to limit what you give of yourself to those who drain you. This means that you understand that you are not a source of unlimited energy that others can use to fuel their lives. Help others, of course, but not at the cost of losing your precious life force down a dark void of no return.
3. Your life purpose is not to sacrifice your own energy. This means that you are not put on this earth to do what makes others happy at the expense of your own happiness. Subordinating to others needs and desires while neglecting your own ages you and contributes to resentment and exhaustion.
Relationships must have an even exchange of energy in order to thrive. Make sure you do energy checks regularly, and take responsibility for yourself by confidently setting boundaries. It’s not easy, but necessary.